Monday, February 22, 2010

Serious Problem With The Thought Process...

Yesterday in "Relief Society" at Church for those of you who don't know what that is...our lesson was on Freedom To Choose, or agency and crap like that. Anyway...the teacher asked us about choices we've made and why we make them and consequences and stuff and all I could think of for a good choice is that I did not kill my kid and bury her in the back yard because...I don't think I would make a good prison girlfriend. And Homer might get mad. He likes her. Because he is gone all day. That has to be the only reason.

Am I the only one who has thought this?!!

Then she made me breakfast this morning so I had to like her again. It is a day by day process. I have had to put locks on my bedroom door and on my sewing room door to keep her out. I have to pat her down every time she leaves the house goes to the home of anyone else. Yes, it is that bad.

Any suggestions? Remember...she has so conscience and no reasoning abilities. I know you smarties out there and all of you that just LOVE being a mom and are so good at it can give me some hints. Not Prozac. The happy pills came with The First Born.

Either give me some suggestions or tell my how big your back yard is....

22 comments:

wesley's mom (sue) said...

Ugh! Yesterday I sat in Sunday school thinking about how tired I am of hearing stories of saintly people of faced their troubles cheerfully. I want to hear about someone who got sick of it and threw a big ol fit and cried all afternoon and how sometimes that's how it goes.

But that's just me. No advice, sorry. My son told me he wasn't coming home afterschool today. He hit snooze too many times this morning and I wouldn't give him a ride, even though I KNEW he would be late. I'm the worst mom EVER. Just ask him. I fully expect him to come in around 3:30 asking why we don't have any good snacks. I mean, really, where else is he gonna go?

Kristina P. said...

I would definitely tie her up with duct tape.

~Thought's By Dena~ said...

I like Kristina's answer!!! All Ive got is if she insist on being this way then take away her privileges. Hit them with the things they like the most and thats what you take away. It always worked in my house! But you have to stay strong even when the whining begins!!

Amy Joy said...

She has taken EVERYTHING imaginable away from this girl. I am not kidding. She does not understand. If you are lucky she will look back and think of how she didn't get it. However, when I look back and see the things I just didn't get when I was young I still wonder why the person couldn't have been more patient with me. Once (NOT AT YOUR HOUSE) I had to wash a dish about 50X bc I was not washing the bottom of it. Wouldn't we of all felt better if she would have been kind and showed me the dirty bottom? I know you hate me for this, but I suck. You have to show an increase of love after the trouble. That means she will get A LOT of love bc she is always getting herself into A LOT of trouble. Not your fault or your DNA this time. With that said I hope I never REALLY understand. You are a great mom so just keep trying.

Missy said...

LMAO! My backyard is looking very "humpy."

April said...

Queen, my sister understands....she has two of them like your one. She inherited them both (they actually came in a package of three, the oldest is the mildest of the bunch for now). She has a small backyard so that is out of the question for her. Some days her pillow hears all of her stories, other days I do. You have my number!

Nezzy said...

Oh honey I have a whole acre for my yard and I live on and own the Ponderosa, baby we have acres and acres!

God bless you! I really don't know what to do when you have done everything you can. I had to do some really tough lovin' raisin' my daughter. I will say a prayer for your both, sweetie.

God bless and hang in there!

Barbaloot said...

Uh...I have no suggestions what with my lack of children and all. I can tell you that I go out of my way to avoid speaking or having contact with my roommate, but something tells me that it's not quite the same when the person you're angry at is your child...

Good luck!

Amy Joy said...

Did you get your big girl pants on yet? Love you

Amber said...

This was my sister. My parents did not chain her, they kinda let her do her own thing.

Just one thing, please do not become so enraptured with your daughter's problems that you forget your other children. My parents did that, to me, and I still can't hold a long conversation with them. I feel like a pariah in my own family.

Jen said...

Im sorry!! I am missing something here, the only thing you could think of was that you didn't burry her???? Really??? How bout choosing to have me for a sister!!! How bout marring the greatest man ever and having a marriage most people would kill for!! Or how bout Kai! Seriously! Well fine then. Just fine then. But you cant burry her in my back yard!

Ps Well said Amy!

Homer and Queen said...

To my two baby girls...shut the hell up!!! I can ship her to you ya know!!!

Chief said...

I love you

that is all

Debbie said...

I wish I had some answers for you. Sounds like you are doing your very best. I think we all struggle to truly like our kids at times. Here's to hoping we all win that struggle:)

Anonymous said...

nice post. thanks.

Lane said...

I have a huge backyard that nobody has paid attention to for years. There's this one corner waaaaay in the back.............

Lane said...

Yeah, just let those girls wait until one of their kids turns into Chucky. Don't let them get to you, they will get theirs. Remember what dear Abby always said, "If you can't fix it with WD40 or duct tape, get rid of it". haha

Lane said...

I love Kristina P's answer. I always said that I would be the worlds worst mother cuz if they misbehaved I would tie them up with duct tape and throw them in the closet. There is nothing wrong with you. Stop beating yourself up. At least you live in reality land.

Barefoot Dreamer said...

hi my luv

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

I don't have advice, sometimes this is out of our control, just taking it day by day and a lot of prayer?

Also my parents have a big backyard. Hehehehe

Delena said...

Hang in there. The only time my husband and I fought was when our kids apparently became smarter than us. It all worked out , with much strictness from him and me hiding a lot of crap from him. YOu know that's what mothers do. Now they are married with kids. Whew, we did it, managed not to kill each other and no real trouble from them, just the normal teen stuff.

Delena said...

Thanks for your comments on my blog. I am not bitter just sick but on the mend. It is hard to leave 100 degree weather to minus 7. My poor bones!